ONLY is not an excuse, there is no excuse
Whether it’s with friends or your own sub-conscious, one word always appears to excuse inappropriate behaviour. ‘ONLY’.
Men hide behind ONLY. Women, see ONLY as another barrier to being listened to, believed and heard.
The word ONLY is used to excuse inappropriate behaviour, It gets used in conversation by men to justify their actions. It gets used by people to dilute women’s genuine fears.
It’s time to stop hiding behind ONLY. It’s time to call out ONLY.
Nowhere should be a place of fear
- Touching someone when they don't want you to.
- Making unwanted sexual comments or gestures.
- Following someone without their knowledge.
- Making unwanted contact on social media, texting or calling.
- Watching or spying on someone.
- Taking pictures without someone knowing, including upskirting.
All these actions causes fear, alarm and distress. It's sexual harrassment and it's not ok. Violence and abuse against women and girls in all its forms is wrong.
Attitudes that condone and normalise abusive behaviour are part of our culture. From sexist jokes and ‘banter’ through to harassment and rape. We want men to speak out about this abusive behaviour.
Calling out others on their behaviour is not about humiliating or shaming them, or getting into a fight. It’s about educating and encouraging a change in attitudes.
We should only call out disrespectful/harmful behaviours and attitudes in a way that is safe for everyone involved.
If you need further intervention, please contact us at VAWDASV@gov.wales.
We will try to help you get the support you need, whether this is more information, advice and or training.
If you have experienced or witnessed any stalking, harassment, violence and abuse, speak to Live Fear Free.
- Join the conversation on social media using #CallOutOnly.
- You can download further information to support social media.
Read about our Live Fear Free campaigns.