We are a team based in Flintshire, helping parents with lots of different challenges, including behavioural issues and practical things too. We love seeing how making small changes can bring big results. It’s amazing to see parents growing in confidence and feeling able to take control of situations they might previously have felt were too tricky.
Our goal is to make parents’ lives easier by providing simple, easy to implement tips and techniques to make tricky times of the day (for example mornings and bedtime) easier for everyone.
There is no right and wrong when it comes to routines. Every family is unique, so it’s about finding out what works for you. You might not get instant results, but with routines, you will quickly see what a big difference it can make to you and your family.
It’s important to stick to a routine so everyone is clear about what is expected of them. It helps to build a sense of familiarity to the day. Everyone feels prepared and less stressed.
Another great thing about routines, is that they help children and teenagers develop a sense of responsibility and some basic skills like time management, which helps them later on in life. When children follow their routine with less supervision from you, it helps them to become more independent, which in turn is good for you.
When you have a consistent routine in place you will notice that your child will have more structure, and they may be calmer and more receptive as a result. They’ll feel more safe, secure and in control, which will make them feel more confident.
Routines help parents too. If you’re happy and relaxed and know things are going to get done, you’ll be less stressed. Children pick up on parents’ anxiety, and if you’re feeling calm and in control, they will feel that too.
Why can mornings be so stressful?
When you’re a parent, you have a lot of things to think about and limited time to get things done. You’re balancing your own needs – like getting to work on time, sorting the pets out, and remembering to post important letters – with your child’s needs.
So, having a morning routine can make a big difference.
If you don’t have a set routine, things may not go according to plan – maybe your child can’t find a book they need and becomes worried about it. It can throw your entire day out!
They’ll be late for school and you’ll be late for work; and the dog might not get walked… It doesn’t take much for things to get chaotic.
A great way to start is by doing some prep work the night before. Anything you and your child can do the night before, do it. Maybe it’s getting bags ready, putting shoes by the door or helping prepare their packed lunch, and even what goes into it.
Go through a checklist together where you both make sure you have everything ready – make it feel exciting!
If you have more than one child, having a routine can help in a big way, as chances are your children have a different ‘body-clock’.